Tuesday, August 11, 2009

What am I Suppose to Do?

I've been so irritated the last couple of days that I didn't know what to blog about. I had a nasty comment left in regards to my post on Facebook about Mallory's Birthday Party. It was by one of Earl's family members who was hurt that they weren't invited. I explained that we only invited my kids, spouses and grandkids because that makes 26 people and that's just all we can handle. So we choose not to invite anyone but immediate family members. Earl doesn't talk to his family as a general rule and, yes, it bothers me. I am close to my family even though I live far away from them and can't imagine not interacting with them, but that's just not how Earl is. Earl hasn't even talked to this person in a few years.

So who got chewed out for not inviting them to the party?? Me. Of course! Earl started a Facebook page last night and he got a nice comment left by this person. ???????

So do I go against Earl's wishes and spend time with this person? She says she just wants our kids to know each other and that I shouldn't take that away from them by not inviting them to things or going to their parties. I do want my kids to know his side of the family, but I have to live with Earl too. Do I take the blame for Earl's decision's? I'm so irritated by all of this. All I wanted to do was to share pictures of Mallory's party and instead it has turned into 3 days of guilt, tears and nasty comments left on my Facebook page. Maybe this is why Earl doesn't want to spend time with some of this family?? I don't know. I'm just very hurt and irritated over the whole episode and I think it's really unfair to put me in the middle.


Letting Myself Free said...

Don't stress yourself out about it, momma. She hasn't tried to get in contact with us the past couple years. & we haven't talked to her in forever & a half so why would we invite her? & we don't get invited to her parties... I know it's hard but I think you should just let it go. Everyone knows you're a good person with a huge heart & would never mean to hurt anyones feelings. I think since it's Earls family, & Earl doesn't want to talk to them you should go with him. It's not like you guys were super close friends anyway. I think Earl might get irritated if they come to the house & he's not comfortable having them there, & doesn't want them there. If Earl decides he wants to see them more & keep in contact then that's Earls decision & you can follow that. But I think being Earls wife, you should just respect his wishes & be on his side regardless.
Don't worry about it. What's meant to happen, will happen.
feel better

Amber said...
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Amber said...

Ok, let's try this again. I had to delete my first comment because I was typing waaaay too fast and there were like 1000 typos.

Let's think of it this way:

She wants your kids to know each other and yadda yadda yadda, but has she bothered to invite you or your children anywhere???? No. And why the hell would she bother you? It's not like you're the reason Earl doesn't bother with them. If they're gonna be mad at anyone, let them be mad at Earl. And if she bothers leaving nasty messages on Facebook instead of calling you and discussing it like an adult, maybe there's a good reason why Earl just doesn't want to be bothered with someone like that.

Personally, I don't have any patience for people like that and I would just tell her to shove it, but you're a lot nicer and more patient than I am! lol

I say the hell with her. If she really cared all that much about your kids knowing each other, she would have tried to initiate something by now. It's ridiculous. It would be like if I got mad because your family didn't invite me to go to Kansas this winter. It just doesn't make sense. lol

Lindsay-ann said...

Hi Sherry
Thank you for stopping by on my blogiversary and leaving me lovely comments. I am glad you enjoyed the virtual vacation.
Sorry to hear you are having problems with this family member. I always envy you with your big family but I suppose there are disadvantages like this too. Try not to let it get you down my friend.

Polka Dot Moon said...

We all have at least 1 in the family!! Don't let it get you down.......wasted energy & time!

All this social media stuff can drive a person crazy ;)

Polka Dot Moon said...

It's easy to hide behind "comments"........

Valerie said...

Isn't it so silly that people can ruin our day like this? I am so sorry this has happened. My daughter had something like this happen to her and she said, why can't I just stay in my own little world and not have to worry about everyone. I totally agree. Be happy. I have your back, girlfriend. This is just a test!

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Let go and Let God! After my hubbies father passed away, I was trying to share some fun times we spent with him & all of a sudden his brother ripped me up one side and down. My first reaction was like yours and to last out. However, Jerry said, we had seen this man once at a funeral, then again at a funeral, we didn't need to worry about his unhappiness! Ignore her & follow Earls wishes!

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